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The IMPACT Model is a practical framework for understanding and changing the conversation patterns that shape your mental health, wellbeing, relationships, and performance.
By identifying the conversations that keep you stuck, understanding why they persist, and replacing them with conversations that move you forward, the model helps you create meaningful, lasting change.
Drawing on more than 20 years' experience supporting over 3,500 clients from a wide range of personal and professional backgrounds, I've developed an approach that combines coaching and therapy to help people think more clearly, act with greater confidence, and build lives that better reflect who they want to be.
The IMPACT Model
Conversations that make the difference
Some conversations help us move forward. Others leave us feeling stuck, misunderstood, or uncertain about what to do next.
The IMPACT stage helps you understand why, revealing what your conversations are missing and how to create more productive ones.
Challenge
You know something needs to change, but the conversations you're having, with yourself and with others, aren't giving you the understanding, support, or challenge you need.
Solution
The Conversations With IMPACT Questionnaires help you identify what's missing from your existing conversations, enabling you to:
- Change how you talk to yourself
- Change how you talk to others
- Change how others respond to you
From mystery to understanding
Lasting progress depends on making sense of why things are as they are. Without that understanding, we remain a mystery to ourselves, making change difficult.
The MEANING stage helps you understand the experiences, beliefs, and patterns that shape your life, giving you a stronger foundation for creating the change you want.
Challenge
Are you focusing on the symptoms rather than the causes of your difficulties? Without understanding why things are as they are, even the best solutions can fail to address the real problem.
Solution
The Meaning Map and Observing Self help you to:
- Make sense of why things are as they are.
- Identify the underlying causes of your difficulties.
- Find solutions that address those causes, not just the symptoms.
From what isn't working to what will
Real change begins by recognising the patterns that keep us stuck. Until we step back and understand them, we're likely to keep repeating them.
What are you doing consistently that isn't working? And what are you not doing often enough that could?
The PATTERNS stage helps you answer those questions, replacing unhelpful patterns with ones that help you respond more effectively.
Challenge
Every difficulty is supported by patterns of thinking, behaving, feeling and relating. Some patterns strengthen your mental health and wellbeing, while others keep you stuck. Recognising the difference is the first step towards lasting change.
Solution
The Cliff Edge Activity, Pattern Interrupter, and Pattern Builder help you to:
- Recognise the patterns that are holding you back.
- Weaken unhelpful patterns.
- Strengthen patterns that support your mental health and wellbeing.
Not resignation but transformation
Personal growth can be challenging, demanding, and deeply rewarding. But when our expectations drift too far from reality, frustration, disappointment, and exhaustion can follow.
The ACCEPTANCE stage helps you close those Fantasy-Reality Gaps by letting go of what cannot be changed, understanding what can, and responding in ways that put your strengths to better use.
Challenge
Are your expectations and reality drifting apart? Are you investing your time and energy in outcomes that aren't achievable with your current resources or circumstances? When Fantasy-Reality Gaps grow too large, frustration, disappointment, and exhaustion are never far behind.
Solution
The Fantasy-Reality Gap (FRG) Activity helps you identify where those gaps exist and understand how they are affecting different areas of your life. It then helps you to:
- Close Fantasy-Reality Gaps through acceptance.
- Focus your time and energy where they can make the greatest difference.
Not too little, not too much, but just right
If we already had the answer, we would be living the life we want to lead. Real change depends on discovering what stands in our way and finding the right way through it.
The CHALLENGE stage applies the Goldilocks Principle: too little challenge leaves us comfortable but unchanged; too much can leave us overwhelmed; the right level stretches us enough to discover what we're truly capable of.
Challenge
Do you have too little challenge in your life, leaving you comfortable but unchanged? Or too much, leaving you overwhelmed and reluctant to take the next step? Either way, the wrong level of challenge can prevent meaningful progress.
Solution
The Goldilocks Principle of Challenge helps you find the level of challenge that works for you, turning challenge from something to avoid into a catalyst for growth. Together we will:
- Measure your current level of challenge using the 0-10 Challenge Scale.
- Complete a Challenge Audit to identify where change is needed.
- Develop a healthier relationship with challenge.
- Use challenge as a positive force for lasting change.
Enjoy the journey, reach the destination
We all want to reach a point where today's challenges no longer define our lives. Lasting change, however, is rarely a single breakthrough. It unfolds one step at a time.
The TRANSFORMATION stage helps you embed the changes you've made so they become part of who you are and how you live.
Challenge
Do you know where you're trying to get to? Even the best plan will struggle if you're heading in the wrong direction, following someone else's destination, or have no clear destination at all.
Solution
The Bridge of Curiosity, Destination Finder, and Darwinian Tree activities help you identify a destination that truly matters to you and create a realistic path towards it. Together we will:
- Clarify the destination you want to reach.
- Align your journey with that destination.
- Build a life that reflects what matters most to you.
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Life is too short to stay stuck. What's holding you back?
- ✓What kind of support would make the difference you’re after?
- ✓How would it feel to get your personal or professional life back on track?
- ✓Do you need someone outside your current network to help?
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